No Sleep ‘Till Manhattan

Jul 21st 2010

Photo Credit: midweekpostThere’s nothing more privileged and self indulgent than writing a whole post about how painfully busy you are. Being busy is a good problem to have, especially if the busy is work/career related.

But this blog is my place for catharsis. This is the one place I can whine when my husband can’t stand hearing me whine anymore. So I’m going to whine now about how I’ve taken on too much, and how the stress is probably causing my intestines to develop cancerous cells as we speak.

In two weeks I fly off to the Big Apple for BlogHer where I will spend days on end schmoozing and networking and trying to be on my very, very best behavior in order to trick people into thinking I’m totally cool. And before I leave to go do that, I’m opening my own brick ‘n’ mortar business. What??? Is she NUTS?!!?

Yes. In case you’re just tuning in. I am completely insane.

Because all the while that I’ve been working on preparing for BlogHer AND trying to open a real business with rent and commercial utility bills and tax ID numbers and licenses, I’ve also been working on my childbirth educator certification.

Oh wait. I’m not done yet.

While doing all that, I’ve also been attending births as a doula. I started out taking on births just to complete the requirements for my childbirth educator certification, and before I knew it, I was taking on far more births than I actually needed for the requirements. In the last month I’ve helped three mamas meet their babies, and I’ve got two more moms on deck in the next few weeks. Tomorrow, I’m interviewing for another mom due in a month. As it turns out, I don’t suck at this doula stuff, and I’m actually really enjoying it. It’s insanely fulfilling. So, because I’m a multi-tasking junkie, I also decided to go after my doula certification this fall, on top of everything else that I’m doing, which includes returning for my Senior year at Loyola next month. August is going to be completely out of control.

Did I mention I have two children who are in the most defiant stages possible right now? Send Help.

I don’t know how I do all this to myself. I think that I just see an opportunity and say “Yes! Yes! I must take that on because THAT will finally fulfill me!” And here’s where I end up.

Don’t get me wrong — I’m so happy about everything that’s happening. Honestly, it could not have worked out any better. One of the reasons I’ve taken on so much is because everything just happens to be falling in my lap so easily. I got a full sponsorship from FuzziBunz to go to BlogHer, and people seem to be coming out of the woodwork to help me make Birthing Babes a great success. Every time I turn around, people are offering me ways to help make my dreams come true, greasing the wheels on Steam Engine Gina.

How can a girl turn any of this down?  I can’t.  And I won’t.   It’s just not in my nature. So while the stress eats away at my intestines, please don’t judge me for how much I’ve taken on, and please don’t roll your eyes when I ask you to pat me on the head and tell me it’s all gonna be okay.

I just need to get myself to New York. I just need to get through BlogHer. And then I will sleep for a solid day in the lovely Manhattan hotel room that I’ve worked so hard to earn.

And if you’re in the Chicago area – pretty please come to the Birthing Babes Open House on Sunday, August 1st. You can meet all the instructors, enter to win some amazing prizes (seriously, people have been so very generous to us), and get 10% off any class you register for that day.  Having a full house that day would definitely ease some of my New Business jitters.

Please, and thank you.

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Now you can tell me about how busy you are – because ALL moms are busy, even if they aren’t opening childbirth studios and flying to New York to play with other bloggers.  Tell me what’s happening in your worlds because God Knows I haven’t had the time or mental space to keep up with anybody else.

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I cannot wait to meet you--and I already think you are cool.

Are you doing an NYC meet up?

I was thinking about this the other day because I am also incredibly busy, as are most of the birth advocates I know. Why do you think that is?
I own my own business (a preschool) have 3 kids under 5, volunteer for a Birth Advocacy group in my area, as well as single parent since my husband works away from home...why do we take so much on? What is it about us? Is there a personality trait? Insanity?!? :)

I'm up at 1:00 a.m. and thought of this post. I have about 4 freelancing jobs right now (depends on how you count), which I do mostly at night -- my current solution for being a WAHM. When you're here in NYC for BlogHer, you can go to Brooklyn Industries and get yourself a T-shirt that says "NO SLEEP TILL." I have one, and I joke that it really means "No sleep 'till I'm 40."
Best wishes in taking care of everything you need to take care of!

*pat pat* it IS all going to be ok! And soon this craziness will be nothing but a memory. It's pretty amazing all you are doing. I'd like to borrow a little bit of your ambition and drive and energy, but I think you need it all right now!

Oh, and I'm hoping to attend your open house- that is also my daughter's 10th birthday, so it's kind of appropriate!

Lots of Love!

How awesome! That's actually my oldest son's 4th birthday too! We're having his party on Friday, and then he gets to spend part of the day with his favorite grandpa while I do the Open House.

((pat pat)) "it's all going to be okay!!" for real though :) I love everything you're doing and I envy you! I love being busy - GOOD busy - and I'd love to get certified in childbirth education and as a doula. Someday!!! As for now, I'm going to BlogHer in 2 weeks (after attending your open house!) and then start a brand new job teaching four classes at our community college... and I haven't even seen the coursework yet... eeek! AND am in the beginning stages of a new online attachment parenting store (if you have tips on all that tax id and license stuff, I'd LOVE to hear it). (but on the being busy thing? you still win.) :)

AHHH!!! You are living MY dream! I totally wish I could be opening a business like you. I feel like, deep down, it is totally my calling, however, as the primary wage earner in our household, I just can't do it.

I know things are SO crazy busy for you right now, but just know that there are moms like me cheering you on (and living vicariously through you)!

Thanks Gina. Now I don't feel so busy or sorry for myself. Your stress wins! ("Oh yay, thanks Melodie" I can hear you saying it now!) Don't worry it will be okay. (Aren't I just the best?)

Okay okay I'm a bit stressed out and slightly snarky (but passably so, no?) today but you KNOW I wish nothing but the best for you and I'm stoked for you about all of your successes. And you WILL be fine. Remember how much you've done in the past? You survived it then and you will survive it now. And right now you are actually doing something you LOVE! So much more fulfilling. :)
Hugs!

LOL! I was thinking about all the crap I need to do before BlogHer too then made a post about it! Glad to see I am not the only one insanely busy before heading to NYC.

Big Hugs! You are doing awesome and totally rocking it!

Ok, I'm crying now. I finished my Doula class in February and I can't even give (seriously, no fees) my services away. I've spoken to everyone and their dog about attending births (required for my certification of course) and I've gotten nothing.
It's ok to take on a lot. Just don't make yourself completely insane.
*pat pat*

Hi Heather,

It might sound crazy but maybe you would get more business/births if you charged something. When something is free people don't think it's as valuable.

I met with a student who offered to attend my vbac for free. But I just wasn't comfortable with her as she didn't seem to have a lot of experience and I didn't bond with her. I went to the hospital but didn't need any help at the time until it was way too late to call her.

If she had presented herself better and seemed more confident I would have been more likely to use her.

Have you posted something on Craigslist? Make sure you mention all the proven benefits of having a doula during birth and share your knowledge.

Keep talking to people and letting them know about your service and eventually the right pregnant person will hear about you. Good luck!

Kelly

I keep finding myself wishing I could plan a road trip to Chicago just to check out your business! I completed about halk the Bradley CBE requirements a while back, but then never finished b/c I got involved in breastfeeding stuff (and other various life circumstances that managed to fuck up the path I thought my life was on - I can say fuck on your blog, right?)

Anyyywayyy, I'm into all this same birth/breastfeeding stuff and we don't really have a place like this in St. Louis. Keep talking about it please - I want to learn more about how you've set it up and how it works.

Maybe once you get it up and running you could franchise it to other cities, since you obviously need more to do . . .

Sending lots of hugs and commiseration your way! What's so funny is that I wrote a similar blog post about being busy yesterday, though mine was infinitely more whiney than yours so no worries:) And my DH isn't much help, either. If I complain, he looks up from his perch in front of the XBox and says, "So just don't do it." Like THAT helps!

You blow my mind Gina!

I can barely keep up with one baby and a full-time job. Just planning on going to Chantilly, VA next week is completely zapping me of all energy.

Kudos to you! I wish I had it in me to get as much done on my "want to do" list as you! Who knows maybe you'll be my inspiration :)

Whoa, Gina, you rockety-rock the rocketship! Can you take about 5-10 minutes a day just to center yourself through all this activity, though? Because you might set yourself up to crash and burn. Just sayin'.

OTOH, you sound almost like me--I've always got some type of learning project or certification in the hopper, and the full-time work/ mom/ wife/ catmom/ TTC thing on the other. That said, being organized using some sort of calendar app helps immensely. Tequila does the rest. :-)

I know what it is like to find yourself with more "to do's" than the hours in a day. My husband often references my "fifty irons in the fire" and my mother-in-law called me manic the other day.

That said, there is an ebb and flow. There will be a time when it becomes all too much. But that might happen just at the right moment, when things have calmed down enough that you can slow down, rejuvenate, and then jump in again.

Life is a wonderful thing, even more so that we are alive in this day and age where so many options are available to us.

The busy-ness of our lives will not hurt us, but stressing over it will. I've learned to remove as much stress from my life as possible and concentrate on listening to my inner voice that will tell me when I have bitten off more than I can chew. This happened recently. And I promptly withdrew from a 'sustainability committee' and also a community education class I was attending. I know that no one will be unduly affected by our absence and that with the changes I set myself in a much better place.

Above all, I will remind you of Thoreau's words, which I try to live by each day:

"I went into the woods to live deliberately. To front the essential facts of life and see if I could not learn what they had to teach. And not, when I came to die, discover that I had never lived."

Keep living deliberately, TFB, a big hug your way!

Well, since you asked...

Right now the hubs is working about 18 hour days while I get the family packed for a move across provinces. It can't be that simple though!
Last night we spent the first night in our temporary housing that we have to live in for two months with none of our furniture or household stuff. Yup. OUR stuff will be in storage. We can only bring stuff that will fit in the van with six people and a cat in our van in September. That includes clothes for two seasons (Canada seasons).
It is a logistical nightmare, and there is way TOO much to accomplish in the next four days. My instinct is to sleep in and spend the days with the kiddos, but no. Until the house is empty and we are settled here - there is no chillaxing with the kids for me!
Enjoy BlogHer. You deserve it, and it sounds like CBE and doula are your calling. Just know that you have company in the 'busy mom' camp. Mine isn't as self-induced, but both are crazy stressful.
Thanks for all your blogging. :)

I could TOTALLY be more busy, but right now I have a 3m old almost 3yr old and an almost 6yr old. We had a house fire and moved in the past 4 months and anyone who has ever had to deal with insurance companies knows whole business sucks.
I also run two support groups myself, but not very well! See how much MORE I could do? Honestly right now I'm just trying to get the house in order and the kids some daily activity and fun. I finally set up the stuff they need to paint whenever they want and that is doing wonders for the whole houses attitude.
Please, someone invent a tredmill that the kids could use to make energy for the house. Get on that Gina!

Oh Gina! I feel so LAZY reading about all you do. All I do is take care of my 3 (5, 4 and 2) and onto yet another quarter of my never ending "18 month" program (that I started when nearly 2.5yr old daughter was 5 weeks old).

I'm also hunting for any sort of employment because we are BROKE.

Best of luck to you, especially in this next few weeks. I thought my August was going to be busy, but yours beats mine hands down! Thank you for the work you're doing and the message that you're putting out there. Have a great time in Manhattan!

Sending a giant, giant interwebz hug. I am SO impressed by and excited about all the stuff you're doing - but there's no question that juggling that stuff and raising little kids is HARD HARD HARD.

There's also no question, in my mind, that you will pull through all of this beautifully. But for now, times are tough, and I get that.

I have way, way less going on, and I'm overwhelmed, too. I'm trying to get ready for my debut as a professional quiltmaker (this weekend!), while dealing with debilitating morning sickness (for a pregnancy I well may lose), and also raising my 2 yr old who just decided to stop sleeping last week. And who spends all day screaming and breaking stuff while I'm weeping about how sick I feel. And not getting any work done.

So, yeah. I'm a brat to complain - I'm lucky to be pursuing my dreams, lucky to have my daughter, lucky to be pregnant. Of course. BUT IT'S STILL FUCKING HARD!

So I feel you, sister.