When It Comes to Breastfeeding, We Can’t Handle The Truth

Apr 06th 2010

Every single time a new study is published proving that formula feeding costs the lives of mothers and babies, people come from the farthest corners of the internet, flame throwers in tow, to argue with the research.  But no amount of denial is going to change the truth.  This week the Journal of Pediatrics published some very serious new findings indicating that 911 babies in America die every year from not being breastfed.  Usually when we talk about infant deaths related to formula feeding, people assume it’s in other, impoverished countries where there’s no running water and rampant disease.  But this time, we’re talking about the deaths of American babies.

So what’s going on right here on our own soil?  We have clean water.  We have a welfare program.  We have free vaccinations.  It is clear now that the formula itself, and the lack of breastfeeding, is what’s killing these 911 babies.  Okay, so how are they dying?  As CNN reports,

“Nearly all, 95 percent of these deaths, are attributed to three causes: sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS); necrotizing enterocolitis, seen primarily in preterm babies and in which the lining of the intestinal wall dies; and lower respiratory infections such as pneumonia.  Breastfeeding has been shown to reduce the risk of all of these and seven other illnesses studied by the study authors.”

And for those Americans only interested in the bottom line, it should be noted that the same study found that if we can get 90% of mothers breastfeeding for the minimum amount of time recommended, then we’d save 13 billion dollars a year in medical costs.  (that’s BILLION, with a B, people.)

So what the hell is the problem, then?  Why can’t we get on board with this research?  The problem is that people don’t want to hear it.  But I’ll say it anyway.

Breastfeeding. Saves. Lives.

You know what else saves lives?  Car seats.  So, why aren’t people spitting mad at the NHTSA for saying that?  Why aren’t they leaving thousands of comments on car seat articles saying “But I just couldn’t afford a car seat, why are you trying to make me feel guilty?!?!” Well, maybe it’s because our society will admit that car seats save lives, and we’re willing to give them out free at fire stations and hospitals if we have to because it is that important.

So why aren’t we doing the same for breastfeeding? Why won’t they hand out free breast pumps and visits to a lactation consultant when we know it would save lives and money?  Well, I think the obvious answer is that there are breasts involved, and people just lose their minds when female anatomy comes up in conversation.

Of course then people say “It’s her CHOICE to formula-feed – leave her alone!” But I don’t believe that most women are making this “choice.”  The CDC shows that 3/4 of women are initiating breastfeeding in the hospital, but only 13.6% of women are still exclusively breastfeeding at 6 months.  What this tells me is that somewhere along the way, they gave up on themselves, and the reason I hear most often is, “But, I tried! I just couldn’t make any milk!”

Here is the cold hard truth ladies:  You have been lied to.

If only 13.6% of us could make enough milk, the human race would never have survived.  And it’s not your fault. It’s the fault of this system that completely fails mothers and babies, and sabotages a mother’s good intentions.  Somewhere along the line, some one told you that you couldn’t make milk, and you believed them because we’ve all grown up in a culture that tells women their bodies aren’t good enough for much of anything except being toys for men.  Is it easy to make this milk?  No, not always – but neither was bringing that baby into the world and your body did a fine job of that.  Think about that.  Think hard. Your body created an entire human being inside from nothing more than the joining of two single cells.  Your body is a miracle worker. So what leads you to believe that, after creating a whole person with organs and tissue and a beating heart, that your body would call it quits when it came time to feeding this thing?  The major problem here is that someone in your life probably put their own ignorance ahead of the short and long term health of you and your baby, and you believed them because women are used to feeling shamed.

But it’s really difficult to change this thinking when we have popular bloggers perpetuating myths and projecting their own guilt onto others, like here:

So, what can we do?  We have to keep pushing back against this misinformation, and luckily there are strong women who will go to bat for mothers and babies, as seen here:

Or here

Or here

At this point, if you are arguing with solid, consistent research, you are on the wrong side of the issue.  Your anger over these breastfeeding studies is completely misdirected and juvenile.  Get mad that we have no paid leave to help support the breastfeeding relationship.  Get mad that moms aren’t being given free breastpumps, lactation consultants, and healthier food.  Get mad at a system that puts Girls Gone Wild tits on the cover of every magazine, but bans breastfeeding pictures on Facebook.  These are the issues that need our attention as mothers, or as feminists, or simply as women with brains.  But perpetuating the myth that women are incapable of utilizing their own biological functions won’t get you any respect from me.  I believe women are capable. Give them the tools.  Give them the time.  Give them the respect they need.  Women are creators and sustainors of LIFE, and there is absolutely no reason to feel guilty about saying so.

And this about sums it up (thank you Noble Savage):

End. Of. Story.

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afrederick23 6 pts

I am one of the 1% who can't make enough milk. My son is 5 1/2 months old and I am still breastfeeding but I have had to supplement with formula since he was a week old. Before you start pointing fingers and tell me that I could EBF with time and training let me tell you what I am doing to be able to do the breastfeeding I am doing - lactaction cookies, Mother's Milk Tea, Domperidrone, More Milk Plus, Blessed Thistle, Fenugreek, Goat's Rue and Shatavari. I do this every day. I take 26 pills every day and still have to give my son 4 bottles a day (4 oz. each). You think formula costs a lot? I probably spend $200 a month to pay for this. Oh and I have met with 3 different lactation consultants. I have tried so hard.

I have discovered that. for women that actually do have a problem making milk, all the proponents of breastfeeding want nothing to do with you once they realize they can't fix it. I was basically ignored at a breastfeeding support group once the consultant heard all I was doing and saw his latch was fine. I sat there and cried while other women complained about having too much milk, and they pretended not to see me.

GretchenSchonover 5 pts

afrederick23

I just want to give you a hug! I know how hard it is and applaud you for keeping it up through all your obstacles!

SamanthaDeGoey 5 pts

afrederick23 I hated hearing complaints about TOO much milk as well. I would have loved to have the problems of engorgement and leaky boobs. But I only supplied my son with one bottle of breastmilk a day. I could have done better with education and such, but I just didn't know better at the time and it's all my body would give me! Don't be hard on yourself. You are a good mom that gave what you could!

TheFeministBreeder 56 pts moderator

SamanthaDeGoeyafrederick23 Having an oversupply is a SERIOUS problem that causes babies' terrible pain, gas, colick, and other issues, and causes mothers mastitis, milk blisters, pain, and much more. I don't think any mother should be shamed for any of her choices, but please stop with the "Us" vs "Them." If a mother is complaining about an over-supply, which is a real problem, then instead of acting like she's doing it to insult you, listen to her problem. I had it, and it was horrible.

afrederick23 6 pts

TheFeministBreeder

I wasn't shaming the women with an oversupply. I was talking about the MULTIPLE LC's that wanted nothing to do with me when they realized that my problem couldn't be solved with a better latch and a few pumping sessions. Low milk supply is the go-to reason people use when they need a reason to quit BF, so the people who have an actual problem are ignored because it is assumed they are using it as an excuse. I even went to my OB, and she looked at me like I had two heads for coming in and bothering her.

I understand that oversupply is horrible for some women, but it can be fixed. For those of us with a true low milk supply, it can't be fixed. Trust me, that is horrible.

GillTravisHopkins 5 pts

afrederick23 I'm sorry. I'm glad formula is out there for babies and women who need it. And I hope you are really proud that you are still breastfeeding despite low supply. I have a couple of friends who have experienced this - one due to IGT, one due to PCOS, but both managed to make mixed feeding work for them, and I am so proud of them. And a little sad for those babies whose mamas could have breastfed them, with the right support and knowledge, but did not.

afrederick23 6 pts

GillTravisHopkins

Thank you. I still don't know my I have a low supply. My OB didn't seem to want to be bothered figuring it out.

GretchenSchonover 5 pts

afrederick23

My supply is fairly low, so we supplement feed as well. What's even odder is that my right breast produces next to nothing so I am pretty much solely feeding my 8 month old off one breast. They look mighty strange when my left is really full, LOL!

billybally 5 pts

I live in Hungary, but have friends in the States and the Uk and am always so surprised by our different attitudes to breastfeeding. It does seem to be taboo-ish in the states. In Hungary however everyone from the pediatrician to the hospital staff promotes and supports breastfeeding, we even have special nurses who come to our homes in the first 6 months to help us with it. It is recommended to mothers here to breastfeed exclusively in the first 6 months. Of course formula is also available.

In my opinion a lot depends on friends and family as well, do they believe that breastfeeding is mysterious, weird, awful, painful boring or is it treated as a natural normal stage of development. If one sees that other mothers around her have breastfed/are breastfeeding their children and also knows (as the studies show us) that the breast is best, then one is more likely to make an effort, overcome obsticals ect. (Also it is so much easier and more mobile to breastfeed than mixing, heating, carrying formula everywhere)

I had a c-section with my first child and my milk did not come for 2 days and we also had latching on problems as my nipples seemed to be the wrong shape :), I used those silicone nipple protectors which helped but in a month I could nurse without them, and breastfed my son for 18 months.

I am currently breastfeeding my second son, and while one of my breasts did get inflamed 2x (I even had to take antibiotics) it was feeding son who helped me get better (ok the anti-b too).

Also, we have a much longer maternity leave here, between 2-3 years, which makes breastfeeding more manageable.

DarleneMcAuslanKarr 5 pts

I am a mother of a 7 month old who breastfeeds as much as I can. Because of some supply issues (which I take domperidone for, have tried fenugreek and blessed thistle (but couldn't afford to keep trying for $$ reasons) tried pumping and using a supplemental nursing system for and exhausted my options with an LC) I still need to give him 1 bottle of formula a night and when I leave him with family. I live in Ontario Canada and an LC is available for free at my local health unit. Free LCs don't seem to be a solution as I often here "I didn't even try breastfeeding, it just wasn't for me" (how did you know that without trying?). There is still a lot of negativity toward breastfeeding in my small city and a large lack of education about the benefits (my brother who has a 9 month old often questions why I don't just switch to formula because "there's no benefit to breastfeeding past a couple weeks age"). I often get asked if I am still breastfeeding and when I plan on weaning him (Um, I'm going to let him wean himself when he wants to- that gets even stranger looks). My mother offered to pay for our formula if we were worried about the cost. I think, as a society, we need to stop being so afraid of hurting formula-feeding mom's feelings and keep trying to explain why "Breast is Best" because I don't think people here have heard it or believe it.

Blynn08 9 pts

This is a touchy subject for me, so I'll try not to ramble here... I have ALWAYS WANTED TO BREASTFEED, even before ever planning to have children. I've always known the benefits of it, and my mother breastfeed my sister and I. Naturally, I was excited when my milk came in just 6 hours after having my daughter by cesarean (the nurses didn't believe me as first until my daughter, who also had acid reflux, spit some of it up). But when my milk came in, she started having latching issues. At one point she went 4 hours without nursing becaus I kept fighting the nurses. Finally, worried because my less than a day old baby wouldn't eat, I agreed to only a little formula so that I could pump and feed her that instead. (on a side note, I am still mad at the nurse that wouldn't even let new be the one to feed that formula to my daughter.. Instead I sat in a corner crying and pumping a little so she could latch). Because of the latching issues, we ended up using a guard (suggested by the lactation consultant that was trying so desperately to help me), and it worked (I hated that thing). A week after having her, I ended up in the er with a severe kidney infection and was put on antibiotics (will also never forgive the nurse who, when I walked into the er to check in, hobbling from the cesarean pain, asked how far along I was, and if I knew the way to labor and delivery floor). I cried for another half hour). The antibiotics allowed my daughter to get thrush. ......

Blynn08 9 pts

I caught it early enough in her so it didn't cause her any pain, but never once did I think it would spread to me. This was never brought up or mentioned. It wasn't until my daughter was 4 weeks old that I realized that I had it, too. And at that point, it was so bad that it hurt up to my shoulders and into my neck, and all the way down to my pelvic bone, deep inside of my body like a pain I had never felt before. I made the decision at that point to quit because they said the pain would last for about 3 weeks, and I knew it was worse every time I nursed. (for the record, it lasted for four weeks or so, even after I quit nursing). The entire process tore me up inside and I battled depression because of quitting , but knew it was best (I was already exhausted and recovering from my cesarean, and didn't have any help whatsoever at home, so it was all too much).

A couple days after starting my birth control to help dry up my milk, I went with my younger sister to her WIC appointment. When she told the woman working that she was nursing and that I had inspired her to do so, the woman turned to me and said "if you are nursing, why is there a bottle in your bag?" I explained my situation, and the woman had the nerve to say to me, while I had tears welling up in my eyes from the story, "what a shame that you would disservice your child because of a little pain.. That's just sad to hear". 
So, when I see comments saying "stop trying to guilt women", I have to agree. La Leche and WIC sometimes go a little too far to make a woman feel inadequate or like they are disservicing their child for quitting. While I do agree that not enough effort is put in by many women, I feel like a little more compassion should be taken in some situations. I still battle with a sadness knowing that I had to quit because of the pain. But when I see that my daughter is so healthy and intelligent, it helps erase the pain a little. It's just some food for thought on the issue at hand. I know that personally8 have been on both sides of the fence, and while I know that breastfeeding is much better than formula, I can also say with confidence that the groups out there to help women, do try to use guilt trips a little too often and without compassion. I still wish I had known about the thrush earlier so that I could have continued on. :(

Blynn08 9 pts

Oh, the woman's exact words were "what a game that you would disservice your child because of a little pain. You could have just dealt with it. That's sad that you weren't strong enough for your child". Those words still ring in my head, and I still, deep down inside, wish I could have just decked her and gotten away with it.... And I'm not a violent person lol

Blynn08 9 pts

*what a shame, not game... Sorry for typos.. I posted this from phone and couldn't see what I was typing for some reason...

EmiAnneRoberts 5 pts

Oh and by the way if you read studies on what percentage of women who are given proper education and TIME to breast feed less than 1% really can't do it. fyi.

EmiAnneRoberts 5 pts

I really think that a big reason that breast feeding has been made into a "dirty" thing is because as a society we have taken away the nobility in being a mother and staying home and actually raising our own children. Instead we're told to give our baby a bottle, a baby sitter/ daycare provider, and get our asses back to work. I think that it is absurd! If a woman in a 3rd world country with almost no food can breast feed her babies than we most certainly can! Quit making excuses!

bkbarbato 5 pts

I love that word: nobility. I agree! Stay at home moms don't make an income, therefore they aren't contributing to our capitalistic society. You're only worth something if you have a paycheck. EmiAnneRoberts

cristinamhl 5 pts

I am also new to your blog, I love it! I know that the post is from months ago, but it is such an important topic,that I just had to respond.

I breastfed my daughter until a couple of weeks before her second birthday. Breastfed exclusively until 6 months!

I'd like to add two things to support what you are saying about problems that need to be addressed to encourage breastfeeding:

One issue that has to be addressed is maternity leave. I think a very important reason why women aren´t breastfeeding longer or at all--even when they do have the tools--is that they don´t have the time, in other words, maternity leaves are too short! It is an external factor that has to be take into account.

I live in Spain and I had a 5 month maternity leave and I can say that a decent maternity leave helps exclusive breastfeeding to work out! As far as I understand, normal maternity leave in the US is much less and regular jobs don´t admit many exceptions... If I was exhausted during that time, my friends in the US that were back at work by month 2 or 3 were extremely exhausted, I wasn´t surprised that breastfeeding was dropped after a few weeks being back. I admire those mothers who have been able to continue breastfeeding while holding regular 40hrs/week jobs.

Secondly, I would like to share my personal experience regarding Americans' view of breastfeeding and the female body.

I visited my family once in the US while my daughter was still breastfeeding. I was shocked. First, that I had to cover up. Obviously if you have always covered up, you are used to it, but if you haven´t the baby just won´t breast feed normally. It was a nightmare for me because my daughter kept on pushing everything I put over her off. Please understand , it is not that I like showing off--as I am actually a pretty private person an even here in Spain I was quite discreet--it is just that I was shocked at the looks and comments I was getting. I was shocked at stories of breatfeeding women at restaurants or planes asked to cover up or leave! It is not exhibitionism, it is nourishing a child. I thought, "do you prefer to hear her crying? I am going to breastfeed her, if you don´t like it, don´t look". It makes you feel it is wrong, and that is very sad.

When did breastfeeding stop being normal in the US? My grandmother already had formula pushed on her back in the 1940s...and my Mom was not breasfed. My Mother was told by her mother-in-law that her milk must not be nutritious enough because look how skinny I was.. I don´t know, call me a conspiracy theory fan, but I suspect formula producing brands and their lobbies have something to do with this twisted disaster.

bkbarbato 5 pts

I have just looked into the earnings of Market Biosciences, which manufactures DHA oils used in infant formulas.

"For the third quarter of fiscal 2010, Martek expects infant formula revenue to be between $76.0 million and $80.0 million" http://investors.martek.com/releasedetail.cfm?Rele...

Mead Johnson, a buyer of Martek DHA oils and maker of Enfamil formula, had the following earnings in China alone for their infant and child nutrition products (formula):

"Mead's China sales rose from $74 million to $745 million from 2001 through 2010" http://seekingalpha.com/article/289670-a-bigger-wo...

This is just one formula company's earnings in one country. So yes, formula is a BIG business. And as the middle class grows in Latin America, China, and India, it will grow bigger.

cristinamhl

bkbarbato 5 pts

I also wanted to comment on your "My mother was told by" story:

When you go to the doctor here in America your baby gets weighted and their growth is shown on a chart. These growth charts are based on a mix of data from formula fed and breastfed babies, so when an exclusively breastfeeding mom goes into the doctor and their breastfed baby's growth is slow or takes a slight dip, for example, they can get pressured into supplementing with formula and made to feel like their boobs aren't good enough.

Doctors are supposed to use the World Heath Organization charts, which have exclusively breastfed babies data, but many do not. The WHO charts were available in 2006 and my doctor's office still hasn't made the transition!

There is a great article about this: http://www.babble.com/baby/baby-feeding-nutrition/... cristinamhl

jandan 5 pts

Hi there,

I am new to your blog, and I realise this post is getting on a bit now and you've possibly moved on, but I thought I'd comment anyway.

I have been doing research on reproductive experiences in the non-Western world and have been fascinated to find accounts of women who bring on lactation in order to breastfeed an orphaned baby in the family. Sometimes these women have never even given birth themselves yet (there is even one account of a prepubescent girl achieving lactation to save her baby sister) and by repeatedly stimulating their breasts, these women are able to get themselves lactating and save the baby. (Where bottles and formula were not an option). I know there are studies about adoptive mothers in the West doing the same, although I haven't yet found the figures.

Anyway, I have just started blogging about this stuff myself. I had some similar reactions to the ones you describe when I was talking about the carbon footprint of infant formula and how many million extra lactating cows would be needed if the whole world abandoned breastfeeding....

Please take a look, I'd be interested in your thoughts!

http://pregnancyandchildbirtharoundtheworld.blogsp...

bkbarbato 5 pts

I have recently seen a couple of commercials (one from Gerber, the other I forget) that state their formula ingredients are "just like those in breastmilk." Has anyone else seen these? What do you think about that false reference?

AsiaMartin 5 pts

I didn't read all the comments but for the one who mention medical reasons to suppliment with formula I agree. However I don't think TFB I ntend to offend those o f medical problems. I do wish she had mention the percentage of women and or babies who wasn't able to be bf but I have to say I breastfeed myself and will if able with all my children. But if not I'm not afraid to formula feed my babies.

Ceunei 5 pts

We finally learned to breastfeed at four months and I always believed my body provided enough milk for my baby, and, it did. We nursed to full term, and, I'm very glad I persevered. It is a very rewarding experience to mommy and baby to breastfeed, after all, it was only sixty years ago or so that this "choice" came about. Can't change the mammal that fast....

A well written article. Something I've believed in strongly for a long time. How can 80% of women be so unable to breastfeed?!! Pffft! If we were back in 1850, a hell of a lot more babies would be perishing! The human race wouldn't be getting very far! So tell me this, if without breast milk (not including medical issues) your baby was going to do die ,.....you would feed it. by hell or high water. But because formula is available, you don't have to force yourself. Be honest. The choice we are talking about is choosing to give up because with formula available you can. Because it hurts at the beginning, because someone else can take over once in awhile, because you feel weird with a baby on your boob, because you want a drink, because you're tired, because you want to go to the movies with hubby for 'date night' (wtf?!) Its a choice. The dishonesty in admitting it is the annoying part. Just say you don't want to at least?! I fed my baby from my breast, never handing my baby over to anyone. Always with me. I should get extra brownie points.

But just one other thing TFB, I noticed you're into natural birth, bf'ing etc etc, but found out the gender of your third baby in utero (no Kobain pun here) which isn't exactly 'natural'? I'm a gender-surprise advocate :-)

It's always a surprise, no matter when you find out. I, personally, like the bonding that comes with know at least one thing about my baby beforehand.

Thanks for posting this very very important information!!!

I breastfeed my daughter, and she is now 12 mths old.
I had trouble like many new mothers... it hurt a lot to begin with... she started not feeding well at about 8wks old and I thought I'd lose my supply... I had bad advice from people... etc etc.

I'm so glad I persevered. I believe she is happier and healthier because of it! I believe that the reasons that some mothers give it up are just not good enough. I don't wish to make anyone feel bad, I just want to urge them to get support, keep trying, do their utmost to persevere.

As it turns out, my daughter is badly allergic to dairy products and soy. So if I'd failed early on with breastfeeding, we would have had a very serious problem... there ain't no formula she could have had.... I don't like to think about what might have happened :(

Thanks again for your honesty and your conviction!

Thank you. I LOVED this post. I am vehemently PRO breastfeeding. Yes, it can be hard. Yes, it will kill your nipples at first. That's another bit of misinformation: "if you're doing it right, your nipples shouldn't hurt." Bullsh*t. If you've got someone applying incredible suction to your nops every couple of hours day and night, of course they're going to hurt.

I also feel sad when women say "I tried it, but it felt uncomfortable and I didn't like it."

Listen: I had a newborn son who FREAKED every time I wasn't doing it right, or if the milk wouldn't let down quickly enough. I got the shimmy shakes over it, but I persevered.

Hi there! I am new reader only two posts in, but I am already on fire. I am due to have a baby in like five or so minutes and this is such a relevant issue in my life at the moment! As an American ex-pat living in the UK I can say that having a baby here has been incredibly different (wonderfully so) than I anticipated. Well, admittedly I still have the birth and parenting for the rest of life to go, so I have spoken a little soon, but I know you smell what I am cooking here...

Comparing notes with family and friends in the US just breaks my heart. I have had incredible support and education leading up to the big, special day. I feel empowered to go as natural as I want. I am constantly reminded by the way I am treated that pregnancy and birth are not medical problems requiring medical intervention; complications secondary to pregnancy may be medical problems requiring intervention--western society just forgets to separate the two things.

The support in the UK for breastfeeding is not the foremost in the world, but it's light years away from the US I think. During one of my classes I think I heard correctly that it is illegal for formula makers to market to babies under six months of age. Labels on formula sold for 'from birth' use are required to contain certain wording to the effect that it is understood that giving formula is a last resort. I got a free CD Rom to watch at home and a health visitor will come to my home several times after baby's birth to make sure the mum and baby breastfeeding like champs (among other things).

I am not an advocate of making women (or any people) feel terrible for choice they have made. However, I do really desire to live in a society where the choices (and research, social policies, etc.) we are presented with are not fueled by commercialism, but rather on sound science (including the psycho and social sciences that don't get enough credit). Lately it is at the forefront of my mind that raising kids is the most important thing for society to do. I mean, it's not my job to raise your kids, but I certainly think I should support you as your neighbor... Your kid is probably going to be my president some day and I want you to have everything you need to give her the best start in life, you know?

People think my friend is crazy (and I probably did in the beginning too). She gave both of her adopted children expressed breast milk. At this stage of my parenting journey I see her situation in a completely new light and I just couldn't admire her more for making an unpopular decision.

Have mercy what am I even on about?!

Oh yeah.

Way to go Feminist Breeder! You definitely have the heart to spread the word and say the unpopular things out loud where there need to be said. I admire you. I applaud you.

I look forward to being a source of nutrition to my baby in an environment where it's not considered weird. I want my US counterparts to have this, too.

XO Jen from Tennessee in London

p.s. Please forgive the typos. Baby Brain and passion took away my good sense to proof read my comment.

I appreciate your enthusiasm for breastfeeding, but I think you're oversimplifying the issue. It may be true that there are a lot of women out there who could breastfeed if given more support, but there are others who would not be able to no matter how much support was given, and there are plenty of babies whose lives have been saved due to access to formula.

Personally, I love breastfeeding my healthy 9-month-old son. But my daughter (now 22 months) was born prematurely and has a facial palsy, so she could never open her mouth wide enough to latch on. She also couldn't drink from a normal bottle until she was several months old for the same reason. For some reason, although my body makes plenty of milk for my son, it just wouldn't do the same when I was pumping, and I never had enough milk for my daughter. She had to have formula.

I understand that you're trying to make a statement about the value of breastfeeding, but you should also bear in mind that for the moms of babies who legitimately can't breastfeed, this kind of one-sided view really makes us feel like there's something wrong with us, or that we're bad moms for something that's totally out of our control. Believe me, I still wonder sometimes if I could have done more to try to make breastfeeding work for my daughter. Try to have a little more empathy for those in situations you obviously haven't had to face yourself.

roxymay53 5 pts

Thank you for posting this. When I was pregnant, my only option was breastfeeding. I never even thought about formula. I didn't purchase bottles, didn't sign up for coupons or samples. Then my baby had a major drop in her sugar levels (single digits) at the hospital and they had to syringe feed her formula. They sent us home with bottles of ready to feed similac for "just in case." After 8 weeks of a perfect latch, medicines, a perfect diet, lactation cookies, herbs, and a major lifestyle change, I still had a baby who was screaming because I didn't produce enough breastmilk and who was not gaining weight. I consulted with a LC and the LLL in my area. There is nothing I could do, I had to supplement. Then I completely dried up. I later found out from my mom (who didn't want me to know this because she wanted me to give it my ALL) that both of my grandmothers and my mom herself had the same issues. Genetic? Maybe. But I know I gave it EVERYTHING I had, then another 200%. I felt (and still do) feel like a complete failure. This article just makes that feeling worse. But I now have a healthy 11 week old baby, that is thriving because of formula. No, NOT EVERYONE IS ABLE TO BREASTFEED.

TheFeministBreeder 56 pts moderator

roxymay53 WHY would you feel like a "complete failure" when you did everything you could, and then some? This article is about scientific facts and evidence, and clearly states that NO, not everyone can breastfeed, but certainly a far cry more than are being convinced they can't. If you did everything you could to reach your own goals, why would scientific evidence make you feel guilty? It's time for people to stop internalizing and realize that these facts are here for people who need education, and may not apply to everyone, and are not talking about you and your specific situation.

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I almost killed my son by trying to exclusively breastfeed w/the help of 2 lactation consultants. I had twins and was trying to exclusively bf and both lc's said to keep trying, no formula, have the baby to the breast whenever he wanted. Well, turns out i had a very low supply and he was not getting enough milk and expending too much energy trying to nurse and he ended up in the nicu for 3 days. I had all the support in the world and the people that were helping me had agendas to get me to breastfeed no matter what and they didn't do what was best for my son. The lies and political agendas go both ways. I think ebfing is great and is best for most babies and mother's (i tried so hard, took supplements, meds, pumped etc), but don't vilify formula and those who need it. If it weren't for formula, my son would likely be dead.

Excellent! @danijela, FB was saying 'we can't handle the truth' to our nation, our healthcare providers, and our social influences in general. She wasn't saying it to the individual new mommy. (correct me if I'm wrong, FB)

@Amber Couch, With breastfeeding, milk supply increases with baby's demand. So, a large baby (like my third child)who weighs more than ten pounds and double-fists the boob, nursing every hour for days and sighs in relief when the milk replaces colostrum will demand more and raise your supply. It may look like they are desperate, but it just takes more work for them while your body adjusts. Supplementing at that point will just keep your body from knowing it needs to make more. Ten pound babies can nurse exclusively, even from moms that don't make an overabundant supply of milk. IME with providing breastfeeding support, babies that refuse the breast were usually given something else that confused them. Or it's a nursing strike (if it's an older baby). No guilt. Just providing info.

RE: free, as-safe-as-you-work-out-with-your-donor milk-sharing groups::: 1.) Human Milk for Human Babies, 2) Eats on Feets Global. Facebook pages are all over. Take advantage ladies! There's your second best option with supplementing.

Our society as a whole sets us up to fail at breastfeeding. There are some that make it dificult, I had to fight with hospital staff to nurse my daughter, and had to fight again when my son was in nicu, they wanted to measure what he was taking in. When you go to hospital to give birth they give you a bag and formula, if ya want a pump you have to ask and beg for one,
Here is another issue med, most meds that are not compatible with nursing have an alternate that is, however their are exceptions
and yes there are issues which make breastfeeding impossible, however providing breast milk is not. Long gone are the days of wet nurses, but there are breasmilk banks but how many know that, how many doctors give out that info, the milk is tested for safety and you can get soy and milk free
I know breastmilk is healthiest for baby but is also best for mom, in most wic offices they have a poster with baby ages up to age 7 telling benefits of nursing for mother and baby.
I do not look down. At any mom for choice od breastfeeding or not I look down at or society and doctors for not helping moms, and giving options to moms who can not which is possible to ntbe able.
It is sad and pathetic that we have come to sucha place about something so simple and natural

Even though it's a year after this blog post was made, I have to reply to this post.

Yes, there are other drugs that are safer for breastfeeding, however, they are not *exactly* the same as the other drug. There are a whole slew of anti-depressants and mood stabilizers that I could try, but they don't all work to control my bipolar II disorder. After many trials and errors, what works for me and my own biochemistry is Seroquel and Effexor. Neither are safe for breastfeeding. I could try to switch to Zoloft, but the last time I was on it I fell into the deepest depression I've ever had. Why? Because it didn't work for my unique biochemistry. I've also tried Lexapro, which sucked the life out of me. Other people I know don't get any benefit from Effexor and have a great experience with Zoloft. As for the mood stabilizers, there are very few that are safe for breastfeeding, and Seroquel is one of the safer ones for pregnancy even though it's not safe for breastfeeding. So saying that someone can just switch meds shows a huge amount of ignorance on the subject of how medications (in all classes) work with each person's biochemistry.

Additionally, I don't want to switch if I can help it! Psychoactive drugs, especially SNRIs and mood stabilizers, are a *bitch* to get on, and a *bitch* to get off of. Some people require hospitalization to get off of them because the side effects are that severe! I literally can't function if I miss a single dose of either of my medications because of the chemical withdrawal, and it took over a month for my brain to function when I started taking my mood stabilizer. (My husband had to stay home from work on the worse days so our son could be cared for!) So it's easy to say, "Just switch your meds so you can breastfeed!" but the reality is much more difficult. Also, a lot of us would rather be healthy mentally and not breastfeed, than lose our minds just to give breastmilk!

As to the main blog entry, the question of how humans survived if it was true that many women couldn't breastfeed is easy: A lot of babies didn't. Unless a wet nurse could be found if a mother died or couldn't produce her own milk, the baby died. Or else the baby would be fed another type of animal milk such as goat milk, or a gruel, but most often the baby would die from malnutrition. But even when breastfed there was a high chance the baby would die due to other reasons like illness. Equating breastfeeding with survival is a misnomer. It helps, but there are many reasons why a baby would die, and we're damn lucky to have a healthy option these days in formula. No way is formula the equal to breast milk, but it's the best alternative ever offered in all of human history.

My last comment is that the study itself should be studied before being commented on. It's a fact that news stories about studies only pick and choose what they report about studies so they can get the most attention about it. I'm curious what the actual study says.

If you're interested in the vast body of research being done on medications and mother's milk, start here: http://www.infantrisk.com/category/breastfeeding
If you're interested in reading the full "13 billion dollar" journal piece I referenced, you can start here: "The Burden of Suboptimal Breastfeeding" published in the Journal of Pediatrics last year: http://pediatrics.aappublications.org/content/earl...
You can read what the actual doctor who worked on the study said about it here: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/melissa-bartick/ipea...

Thank you, thank you, thank you Alicia!! You've made my points. ;)

Fabulous post! I read some of the comments, but couldn't get through all of them because there are so many. Suffice to say, many of you fellow mamas made some excellent points.

Despite having read all the BF research out there, I have always felt guilty for pushing "my way" onto other mothers or expecting mothers. I think the idea of being tolerant
has become so enmeshed that we are seen as the enemy when we speak up on these issues. Similar to telling people they shouldn't eat sugar and refined foods, like someone else pointed out. But in the case of BF, it's a baby who can't make that decision for him or herself.

Formula companies make money just like any other commercial food, and it's in their best interest to make their product look good. And in a society of convenience like ours, it
seems like such a good idea at first. This website (http://www.lactivist.net/?p=1307)
has excellent information on the ingredients in formula, and how other countries have actually controlled its availability due to its harmful effects. There may be instances where the giving of formula is medically necessary, but we are doing our children a disservice by allowing it to be so widely available and not informing consumers of its true nature.

I believe there are instances where some mothers truly cannot - for whatever reason - nurse her child. But this is the exception, not the rule. And you can always find a
story to defend your position rather than looking at the facts and statistics. While breastfeeding may have many benefits, it's not a cure-all. Kids that are in daycare or
some type of school environment tend to get sicker just by being around other children. If you're giving your older baby or toddler fast food or refined foods, or course she'll have a tendency to get sick. But as a rule, BF babies tend to get sick less often, and when they DO get sick, it's for a much shorter duration. I can attest to that. Go to the La Leche Leauge's website to read all about the benefits (http://www.llli.org/nb/nbbenefits.html).

I didn't have an easy time nursing my first. She was only a week early, but weighed just over 5lbs. I have rH disease, and had IUGR during my first pregnancy, and everyone was concerened about her size. My pediatrician wrote "poor growth" on her charts, harped on it with each visit, and I felt horrible - like I couldn't feed my own baby. She kept talking about supplementing, which I was firmly against. Despite the fact that my baby was healthy, she remained on the small side, so I all I got was insistence that she was too small and I needed to supplement. Well, I didn't give in, and my daughter's
just fine. I wonder how many mothers just take their doctor's say-so because they're supposed to be the expert. I did see a couple lactation consultants, and will honestly
say they weren't much help; when my babies were newborns, they didn't have a good latch so I just had to work at it and give it time.

I went back to work part-time, and pumped so my daughter would have breastmilk. I never made much, so I would set my alarm and get up at different times at night. Inconvenient? Heck yeah! But I'm so glad I did it. I ended up nursing her past a year, until one day she shook her head when I went to nurse her - I wasn't ready to wean her! Now, with my second child at 19 months, we're still going strong. I love nursing him, and will be so sad when he stops. Just "cuddling" isn't the same as nursing - besides the nutrition and antibody aspect, it provides an intimacy and comfort that can't compare.

Anyhoo... I've rambled enough! Thanks for writing this, and I hope other mothers give nursing a chance.

I don't agree with this. After I had my son, my body did NOT produce ANY milk. EVER. I went to MANY specialists and lactation consultants and no one could figure out why my body wouldn't produce any milk. I even took supplements that were supposed to help with the prodcution, ate healthier, exercised etc. I had no choice but to formula feed or allow my son to starve to death. I will also bring up that breast fed babies aren't necessarily always healthier. I have two friends whose children are sick more than any other kids I know and all 3 of those children were exclusively breastfed until after a year old. Hell, my boyfriends daughters are sick pretty much all the time and were both breast fed babies. My son is sick waaaaaaay less and he never got even a drop of breast milk. Trust me, I'd have rather saved the $37.00 for each small can of special formula my son ended up being on to breast feed but it was an impossibility. It wasn't a choice I made to formula feed instead of breast feeding and I think people need to understand that breast feeding isn't always an option. "The major problem here is that someone in your life probably put their own ignorance ahead of the short and long term health of you and your baby, and you believed them because women are used to feeling shamed" I TOTALLY disagree with that statement, I did NOT feel ashamed that I couldn't breast feed. My body produced NOTHING. All I wanted was for my son to be healthy and have a full belly and if I didn't formula feed, he'd have died of starvation.

Therase 5 pts

It is always a bad decision to use formula. In your case, it obviously was not a desicion, you had no choice. Formula, when correctly used (as in your case) is indeed a life saver, just as artifical insulin is for diabetics. You had no choice, so congratulations for saving your son's life. The problem is not the 1% or so of mothers who have had awful experiences like yourself and have had to use formula. The problem is the 79% who have beed conned into abusing the product when it is not necessary. No one should ever make you feel ashamed of something that was out of your control.

My son basically started weaning himself at a year old. I went faithfully to a local breastfeeding support group once a week run by an excellent nurse/lactation consultant. When he (my son) started biting me, putting actual holes in my areaolas, I starting doing as suggested at my group. . . putting him down for a few minutes and going away from him. I was told he would learn not to bite. That was not the case. He started biting harder. I wonder if he wasn't getting enough milk, or not getting it as fast as he'd like at that point. I don't know for sure. It got to the point that anytime he got near my chest, he'd bite. By the time he was 14 months old, I was completely dried up. I really miss being able to nurse him.

I think the real problem is in our medical system, media, and the public. The mothers who formula feed are not at fault. There are so many booby traps that cause mothers to fail at breastfeeding or not want to breastfeed that we really can't blame them. There will be the occasional mother who doesn't breastfeed for selfish reasons, but they are few and far between. We all love our babies and want what's best for them. =)

Ok, I am going to make a few comments that aren't meant hostile, I'm making them b/c I'm looking for feedback so please be kind!
Not particularly interested in having kids, but if I did, I don't think----as in, I "know" I wouldn't want to breasfeed. It does seem, well, disgusting. Why do women go so crazy for it! Can't you just cuddle and bond in other ways? Don't your boobs get all saggy?
I wonder if I might change my mind if I had a child.

I'm curious - why exactly does feeding a newborn seem disgusting to you? Do you think it's disgusting when kittens and puppies feed from their mothers? It's the natural mammalian process. We don't remove infant animals from their parents to bottlefeed them unless there are extreme circumstances (like maternal rejection or abandonment). The human being is an animal too, and breastfeeding is how mammals feed their children.

I am not a mother either, but I would not be surprised if, when you asked a mother whether cuddling forms the same bond as actually nourishing a child, the answer would be a resounding no. Close cuddling is WONDERFUL, but it's not the same as actively giving your child food and life from within your own body.

The whole sagging breast thing, I imagine, may not be a phenomenon that necessarily happens to every mother who breastfeeds - and even if it were, well, yes, that would come with breastfeeding. In which case, valuing the appearance of your breasts over breastfeed is a choice I suppose you'd have to make for yourself. I think it's a shame that society is so revulsed by the natural processes of the female body, though, and says more about the culture than anything else that the question even comes up.

Sagginess comes from pregnancy hormone changes not from breast feeding.

I love breast feeding. I once thought it was "gross" and I changed my mind.

Ultimately its up to you but I will say this. Ok, so if breast feeding is gross, then how is consuming a product made from the breasts of animals that aren't human any less gross?

There are hormones at play when you breastfeed. Oxytocin (The love hormone), prolactin (the mothering hormone), and endorphins (pain killers/natural happy drugs). When I nurse my child, it forces me to take a break from the stressful craziness around me and just focus on him/her. While I'm sitting there (because it's not convenient for me to give a bottle for baby to hold on his/her own or give someone else a bottle to feed baby--as it was when I formula fed), I have these hormones rush over me. I don't give a crap about the drama or the broken dishwasher or the fact that my older child drew on the wall with his crayons. I'm not mad anymore. I still get up and deal with life, but I had like a natural anti-anxiety and anti-depressive in my nursing session. That's my number one reason.

I formula fed my firstborn. I breastfed the last three. Not only does it smell better, but there was less work. Just put baby to boob and feed. No other steps, nothing to clean, dry, mix, or heat. Those endorphins are also present in the milk that my baby drinks, so if she gets a boo-boo, no tylenol necessary. Another huge reason for me: My aunt died from breast cancer. I think about my lowering risk of breast cancer everytime I sit and nurse my child. So far, I have 7 continuous years. (last three babies born in 2004, 2007, and 2009. Two of them nursed for four years each. Still nursing my last)

My boobs might be saggier, but I'm ten years older than when I started out and that's what pushup bras are for!! I'm so proud of my body and what it is capable of, what it has done in growing, birthing, and feeding my babies, I don't care. I have better self esteem now than when I had a tight, rockin, late teen body. Everyone sags in the end...

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I think that you have hit the root of the problem: a mother's views of bf before she had her first child. Thank you for sharing. The challenge is to change the image of this "disgusting" act and make it normal and accepted. Not an easy challenge. I think we should start antenatal education for three year olds, as it is far too late once a women is an adult, as you have kindly shown us Sara. To his end I have breastfeed infront of my son's kindergarten class.

OMG, how am I just finding this blog NOW??? I nursed both of my kids until just about age two. Do you know what *I* think hinders breastfeeding a lot in this country? Over-sexualization of the breast and prudishness. *SO* many people seem to think any type of nursing outside of your home is some kind of public perversion, it's unbelievable.

And it makes no sense. We can see naked boobage in just about any PG-13 movie, but God forbid we see a glimpse of an exposed breast being used for its natural purpose. You know, hence the term "mammals."

Again, love the post! :D